Some people lack joy for no good reason. Unhappiness can pop up in different, hidden, unsuspecting forms.
Here are some reasons you may be unhappy, and suggestions on how to combat them:
When you expect things to always go your way
Constantly reacting negatively to the things that are unfair can make you to explode. If you’re expecting the world to be fair with you, just because you’re fair, then you’re deceiving yourself. Your idea of perfection may differ from that of others. The sooner you realise this, the happier you will be.
When you compare yourself to others
This is what happens when you scrutinize a little part of another person’s life, and then beat yourself for having little or less. This behaviour will only create a feeling of dissatisfaction or discontentment in your life. Instead of constantly comparing yourself to others, why don’t you make an inward comparison, to see if you’re a better person than you were yesterday.
You worry too much
Worry create nothing but great disorder. It doesn’t create action, but instead, it makes you unable to think clearly, and takes you nowhere. I think it is better to channel your energy and mental prowess towards changing the things you can control, and accepting the rest.
You have no true friends
It’s not about having a thousand friends. It’s all about having someone who will stand by your side in good and bad times. Life is about connecting with people. But trust me, it is better to have a few good friends, than having a bunch of traitors/backstabbers. Build strong friendships with people who are willing to support you.
When you’re lonely
One of the worst feeling is that of loneliness. Being lonely and being alone are two different things. Sometimes, it is good to be alone. This enables us to meditate and reflect, as regards the things we have, and also the things we need. But when you feel lonely, it is like you’re unloved, and no one cares about you. If you find yourself lonely or depressed, make an effort to find new friends, who’re willing to spend some time with you. We’re naturally social creatures, so don’t fail to build great relationships with others.
When you’re too materialistic
Acquiring material things is not a bad thing, though it is not a guarantee to happiness. The goal is to live a valuable life. You will find more fulfilment that way, than materialism could ever bring.
If you’re too insecure to move out from the familiar, you might never experience the joy that comes with conquering your fear, and exploring the unknown. Be confident, and don’t be afraid to voice out your thoughts/opinions.
When you’re dependent
Most people view ‘independency‘ as one of the greatest marks of adulthood. I know it kind of sucks when you’re thirty and still a responsibility to your parents. But don’t be too hard on yourself. You will find your footing one day.
You hate your job
It is hard to keep a happy/positive countenance or attitude, when you hate your job. Most people find their job unfulfilling, based on one reason or another. I think people should work towards their passion, and not just a paycheck.
You don’t love yourself
It is difficult to find happiness when you don’t love yourself. Self-hate is one of the worst things ever. Stop beating yourself up due to your mistakes or flaws, and learn to love yourself.
This is when you chose to continue with the same pattern of self-destruct, rather than learning from your past mistakes. Your mistakes do serve a purpose. No matter how devastating it is, it is important to learn from them.
You care too much about what others think
You can’t please everyone. Once you realise this, you will see how better your life will become. Break free today, of that people-pleasing mentality, and start living your own life.
You think you’re a failure
You have heard people say:
I am sick and tired. I can’t seem to get anything right. I keep trying, but keep failing.
Well, keep on trying. Don’t stop. One day you will get it right. All your effort will pay off one day. Just believe in yourself.
You’re afraid of aging/old-age
I know this may sound absurd, but a lot of people seem to detest “aging.” This is what happens when you’re so much into your looks, or when you feel you aren’t prepared for retirement. Clocking thirty may feel like hell to a narcissist. But hey, instead of worrying about your sagging looks, why don’t you focus on spreading the love that resides in your heart. Regarding retirement, I think it is best to worry less.
When you haven’t discover your purpose
I know you might be thinking being wealthy, influential, famous, or making a positive impact on the world sounds fulfilling. But you may realize after achieving all these things, you are still feeling INCOMPLETE and UNHAPPY.
You’re feeling this way, probably because in the process of fulfilling your LIFE PURPOSE, you have had to sacrifice some things, like:
- Spending time with your family ily
- Going on outings with your friends
Finding a purpose doesn’t require you to ‘THINK.‘ It requires that you ‘ACT‘. It is good to try new things. Don’t be afraid to step into the unknown.