What to do when you are at a crossroads in your life

Crossroads simply means a decision point; a turning point or opportunity to change direction, course, or goal. It is a place of decision, that will affect the course of one’s life.


Everyone encounters crossroads in life. Life’s crossroads create an opportunity for us to choose between different options. This can be really challenging, especially for the faint-hearted.

Life is a journey; there are stops along the way. You must be very careful during these periods of stops, because the decisions you will make are not expected to be easy. This is due to the fact that crossroads involves major changes, and you’re about to veer off into something new.

It is very important to know who you are at times like these, and what truly matters to you. This is necessary, so as to be clear about the steps you will take.

When confronted with big life decisions or changes, how do you handle them? In such moments, we are often apprehended with the feeling of loss. This can be scary, and yet awe-inspiring, in the sense that you’re presented with an opportunity.

People get to a crossroads, when they find themselves in situations whereby they feel stuck, drained, for a long period of time. During this period, you feel there is no repose in sight.

Sounds awful, right?

In order not to veer off into a wrong course in times of crossroads, you need to ask yourself certain questions, like:

  • What part of my life needs more stability?


  • What other areas of my life might be affected by this change?


  • What is that thing you will never compromise?

  • Is this change in line with the values that are closest to your heart?

Making the right decision can really pay off in the most rewarding ways, but what if it is the wrong choice? Things could get chaotic, and you will be filled with regret/self-pity.

Perhaps, you are stuck in your job, and the need for a change in career arises, or your ill-health is making things complicated for you. Maybe you feel a very important relationship in your life has run its course. In situations like these, what do you do?

It is at these final junctions, that we need to make firm decisions about matters that might have far reaching consequences, and a long-lasting effect in our lives.

These choices often cause a lot of panic, anxiety, and uncertainty, because we know there is a lot at risk, and we might be criticized unfairly, if the choices we make turns out badly. But you must take a stand, and trust in the decisions you make.

So, North or South, which course will you choose? East or West, which path will you take?

The choice is yours.







98 Replies to “What to do when you are at a crossroads in your life”

  1. Everybody has that point in their life where you hit a crossroads and you’ve had a bunch of bad days and there’s different ways you can deal with it and the way I dealt with it was I just turned completely to search engine optimization

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  2. Yes! I need a change. And I understand that I’m not living in the past. But I think I have a lot of trouble with my subconscious. I’ve had so many restarts for jobs in my life, I’m exhausted! Someone I respect and care about is suggesting that I build up my writing skills. I don’t quite know how to do that. Plus I don’t know if I can spend so much time on another dead end. Even though it has been a dream of mine since I was young. I don’t know if I have the courage anymore.

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    1. One can be paralyzed with fear, when it comes to crossroads.
      Just like I wrote in the post, you must be courageous enough to take a stand.
      Think carefully about your decisions/choices.
      Take note of the things that truly matters to you.
      Trust me Brand. It is very much possible to get out of that dead end. ☺

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  3. Yes. Crossroads are very important part of one’s life and one’s who life can depend on that one single decision. So it’s very important that we take all the important decision of our life very carefully.

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  4. As said , when you do what your intuitive mind inspires you to do, it feels like the flow of the universe naturally …
    Self-reflection and insight is a journey of self-discovery to see your natural talents and divinely given abilities …My Grandma ( God bless her and all people ) used to tell me a saying like look for  the advice of a thousand people and disagree to 1 thousand people but return to your inner divine self for guidance …
    شاور الف وخالف الف وارجع لمشورة نفسك …
    Joseph Campbell said:” Follow your bliss and the universe would open doors for you where there were only walls. “

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  5.     Changes happen gradually if you want to develop . All areas are important and inter-related as an improvement in one area helps also in the other areas . Sure , check that you are balanced in taking care of all areas or dimensions of life …
    1.emotional wellness …

    2 . Financial wellness …

    3. Spiritual wellness …

    4. Occupational or job wellness and how it aligns with purpose and talents …

    5. Environmental wellness  ( including nature helps us stay more balanced and refreshed…)

    6. Physical well-being…( excercise , diet , self-love and self-care …)

    7. Intellectual well-being and being a life long continuous learners and creative people    …

    8. Social well-being or good relationship with people we deal with  ( we sould be selective with ourtimes and have self-appreciation to only be around uplifting people …)

    Exactly, the purpose and the why are important…
    Yes , be joyful in the now here to allow more blessings to come …

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  6. Great post. Trusting your intuition at such times is important. It’s also helpful to remember that fact the one often has a choice. Many others aren’t so lucky. Thank you

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  7. when i had covid 19, i was hospitalized and knowing this illness, you must be confined in isolation. the only way you can talk with your loved ones is through a vidcall. From that awful experience, realizations came in to me. My heart wants to go home and my mind is battling if I could survive the sudden change. It is between giving up my job overseas and start a business in my homeland with my family…
    reading this article helped me and thank you for that… i know for sure what i want… to be with my family… ❤️❤️❤️

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  8. So true my friend and well written. It is definitely a time to be thinking about life’s goals and decisions, thanks for this great advice and wonderful post. Love to you and your loved ones. Have a blessed day. Love 💕 Joni

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  9. Very well expressed…life is all about decisions ..choices one makes… unfortunately not many are pro-efficient in the art of decision making and look for support at the first opportunity…

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  10. Great post, I find the hardest choices are that of head or heart. It’s easier to take the comfortable or familiar choice, but sometimes the difficult choice has a better long term outlook.

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  11. Yes indeed! This is a wonderful reminder to all of us, to keep in mind that the consequences of our actions might lead us towards destruction. By the way, I have nominated you for Vincent Ehindero Blogger Award. I know you really deserve this award. God bless!

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