We all grow up in different situations. Some grow up in toxic environments, while others grow up in healthy situations. Regardless of your experience growing up, no matter how sweet or bitter, there comes a point in your life, when you will decide how you will respond to circumstances/challenges.
I don’t know if there is anyone who wants to intentionally ruin their life. I do believe, most times, we ruin our lives without realizing it.
Honestly, the more you are aware of your decisions, the better your life will be.
We are born with the ability to choose. Making bad choices often, will definitely have a negative impact on your life.
Some actions are almost guaranteed to lead to destruction. We need to learn from our past mistakes, and seek for help if necessary, rather than walking on the same path of self-destruct, and giving one excuse or the other; defending our bad decisions.
The moment you decide things will change, they will change. You don’t expect your problems to be solve by others, do you?
But do you believe things can be different?
No matter your situation, you have the power, at this moment, to set things right. Be it a bad relationship, an addiction, toxic behaviour.
Your starting point is where you currently are. Start immediately. It is never too late for a change.
We get to choose our decisions, but we don’t get to choose the consequences. The decisions we make, have considerable impact on our lives. Chaotic actions, will not take us anywhere.
Do you have a sense of who you are?
We need to stop running away from the tough questions. I’m very much aware making mistakes is part of life, and helps us grow. But the question is, do you keep making those wrong choices repeatedly?
Your current situation, might be as a result of the decisions you made in the past. Sometimes, your pride wouldn’t let you admit it.
No matter how little the decision is, if you keep making the wrong ones, it will accumulate into a bigger problem. Bad choices lead to pain, regrets, low self-esteem.
We also make daily, small decisions, every minute, every hour. They are called habits. These include spending more than you earned, not mindful of what you eat or drink on a daily basis. You don’t need a major life challenge, to alert you of the dangers of these small, bad habits.
Whatever actions you take today, might have an impact on your life forever. And when it does, admit it, and do whatever it takes to repair the damage. Do not put the blame on God.
It’s not about getting scared, or running away from making decisions; trying to stay safe. It is about giving careful consideration to the choices we make.
If you don’t like your life, then do something about it. Start making changes, and better choices. Quash those bad habits.
Add daily, positive rituals into your life, to counterbalance your negative tendencies. Don’t spend any more minute wallowing in self-pity.
You will definitely encounter occasional hiccups on the road to transformation, but do not lose hope. There will be a gradual progress. You will realise you are in a better place, than you were before.