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Some toxic behavioural signs

Below are some toxic habits that you need to identify honestly within yourself:

PROCRASTINATION


This is a major roadblock to achieving your set goal(s). Procrastination is like an endless spiral into frustration. The more you procrastinate, the slower your progress, and chances of getting things done. Procrastination has far more damaging effects, than you may realize.

What happens when you procrastinate? 

  • You actually let valuable time slip by.
    Tick tock…
  • You wouldn’t be able to meet goals.
  • When you procrastinate, you destroy the possibility to better your life.
  • You will damage your reputation. Nobody wants empty promises.

HOLDING GRUDGES


Holding a grudge is like drinking a poisonous substance, and expecting the person who has hurt you to die from the substance intake. The truth is, you are simply harming yourself, by carrying all of that bad energy. Funny enough, the one who hurt you, is probably having a swell time, while you waste your life sending him or her death bullets, with your thoughts.

UNABLE TO LET GO OF THE PAST


Many people become the product of their past. They are the casualties of regret, sorrow, bitterness. While we can all learn from our past, staying there is not advisable. The past can’t be changed or relived. To constantly dwell on it does not create an emotionally healthy outlook.

INDISCIPLINE


Indiscipline is synonymous with having no direction, no purpose. Everything seem chaotic/wild. An uncontrolled behaviour can lead to a lonely life. It is very important to exhibit self-control in whatever we do, be it the food we consume daily, or other obsessive behaviours.

BLAMING


They don’t take responsibility for their actions. They are always trying to defend their feelings, and love, projecting their anger on others. It is advisable not to get into a war of words with such persons.

47 Replies to “Some toxic behavioural signs”

  4. From your list it is true that I exhibit some toxic behaviour as well, and I’m the only one I can do something about. I guess that was your point. Thank you for your post. ❤️much love

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  5. Great article.

    Procrastination is not a mental health problem in itself but it can, however, be a characteristic feature of some mental health issues. Lack of confidence in one’s ability to complete a task can lead to procrastination in order to avoid failure in the short-term.

    I wonder if you’d like to read this article on Procrastination which might offer insight into reasons why some people procrastinate? https://mentalhealthfromtheotherside.com/?s=procrastination

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    2. I read the article. Nice post.
      I think procrastination is quite toxic, in the sense that it can lead to depression and anxiety. Just like you clearly stated in your article “It is linked to a number of disorders, including ADHD, depression and anxiety. On the other hand, procrastination can prompt depression and anxiety.”

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  6. I think I might be struggling with some disciplinary issues. Someone said discipline is the bridge between goals and accomplishment. I do not consider myself a toxic person but maybe I could do more to achieve my goals. Are you struggling with any of these yourself?

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  12. Yup. I’ve got every single one. They are intermittent though. It’s like swimming through currents. When I’m making good progress, I’m fine and feel as if nothing bad would ever happen. When I’m pushed off course, it actually feels really bad, like you described. When I used to live with people, I used to be able to adjust my course right away, just by talking to someone for a few minutes. It would save me, maybe, days of frustration. My mind so easily cascades and I sometimes need help. I set up with a friend, an old guy, to be my mentor, exactly what I was talking about. But with social distancing, it’s impossible to meet. For whatever reason, digital networks are less effective for me.

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    1. I love it when people admit they have one or more of these traits, because that is the first step on the road to improvement. A lot of people go through this also. I was glad when I came across the mentor part, but then, it became impossible. You can decide to consult a professional someday.

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      1. Thank you for the suggestion. There might be others I can talk with. I don’t have resources to talk with a professional and prefer someone I know. If I can make a better effort to stay connected, it’s all I want out of life anyway. Everything else is just busy work. 🙂

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  13. Grudges and resentment are definitely toxic. Sometimes we slip into these states before we are fully aware of what’s happening, but once we are aware that we are holding onto our resentment, it’s important to start the process of releasing it. Otherwise it will just poison us and possibly drive away other connections we have.

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    1. I think the first step on how to let go of the past, is to acknowledge what is holding you back, and determine your reason for wanting to move on. What exactly are you holding on to? Do you need to forgive someone, either in person, or just in your own heart? This is necessary so that you can let go of anger, and step into a more peaceful state.

      Once you have identified what’s holding you back, ask yourself: “What are the reasons that I absolutely must move beyond this?” How will your life change when you learn how to move on from the past?

      You can decide to consult a professional to help, if the need arises. ❤

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